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The Ups and Downs of Your Child Becoming a Teenager

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Watching your child transition into an adolescent can be both exciting and challenging at the same time. As they slowly enter their teenage phase, they will undergo many changes that you may not expect as parents.

These changes can be good or bad, but ultimately, they help your child grow and develop more as a person. Let’s explore them further in this article!


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Our teens will start to undergo a process of self-discovery and explore more about who they are.

They may start to step out of their comfort zone and try new things as they develop new hobbies, meet different people, and have their own outlook on life. 

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As long as these things are not too dangerous and risky, we as parents should just let them experience them for themselves. After all, they should live their own lives, and our opinions may not match theirs. 

Conflicts may arise due to differences in opinions, but we should not try to undermine or refute what they think. Instead, it is crucial to provide guidance and set realistic boundaries as they try to establish their identity.

Physical Changes

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One of the first things you will notice is that your teen is undergoing physical changes. Transitioning into a teenager also means that they will go through puberty. 

Puberty brings about many changes in your teen’s body, such as the development of sexual characteristics, growth spurts, and hormonal fluctuations. 

Although these changes help your child develop, they can also cause insecurities. Your teen may face a lot of confusion and fear since they’ve never experienced these changes before. 

This is where our role as parents comes in. We can support our teenagers by explaining to them what puberty is and providing reassurance. 

Emotional Ups And Downs

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Another notable change you will see is that your teen is going through many emotional rollercoasters and mood swings. 

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This is mainly due to the hormonal changes from puberty as well as encountering new challenges in their lives. 

They may desire more time alone and independence, as well as being more sensitive and irritable to anything around them. 

As parents, we can help them cope with all these changes by giving them their own space and assuring them that we are always available to talk to. 

Show them that we trust them and understand what they are going through since we were all teenagers at one point too. They will be able to better manage their emotions and get through it more smoothly as long as we provide our support.


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As they go through this transition, they will value friendships more. They will start to hide things and will not tell us everything as compared to when they were still young kids. 

Nonetheless, it is good that they will interact with more people and make many friends. However, they will also face peer pressure as they try to fit in. As a result, they may engage in risky behaviours and end up in situations that they may not have control over. 

It’s crucial that we educate them more about this topic and let them know the potential consequences of their actions. 

Sharing our experiences will also show that we are not trying to talk them down or accuse them for no reason, but that we relate to and understand where they are coming from.

Strained Relationships

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As our teens strive for independence and exhibit different behaviours due to puberty, our relationships with them may undergo strain and tension. 

We may feel like we do not know them as well as we used to. This is perfectly normal as they go through this journey and rely less on us. 

We can bridge our relationships by maintaining open communication and proactively listening to them. 

Showing them respect and giving them space while still providing guidance as parents is vital during this process.


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Transitioning from a child to a teenager brings about significant changes for both us and our children. 

Although they may be challenging, they also provide opportunities for personal growth and deepen our bonds with them.

By embracing the ups and downs and understanding our teens, we as parents will be able to provide better guidance and support to help them and go through thick and thin with them together.

Rum Tan

Rum Tan is the founder of SmileTutor and he believes that every child deserves a smile. Motivated by this belief and passion, he works hard day & night with his team to maintain the most trustworthy source of home tutors in Singapore. In his free time, he writes articles hoping to educate, enlighten, and empower parents, students, and tutors. You may try out his free home tutoring services via or by calling 6266 4475 directly today.